I love a good enemies-to-lovers story. But when what’s depicted on the page is actually abuser/abused-to-lover, I call foul. Despite its overwhelmingly positive reception (it has a 3.88 star rating on Goodreads), Penelope Douglas’s Bully is one of the worst representations of enemies-to-lovers out there.

Next-door neighbors Tate Brandt and Jared Trent grew up together and used to be inseparable. Then Jared went away the summer before their freshman year, came back, and now he hates Tate. Hates her. Lives to make her suffer and cry. He’s such a negative presence in her life, she actually leaves the country to spend a year abroad as an exchange student.

Tate comes back from France determined to enjoy her last year of high school and to ignore Jared completely, taking to heart her best friend K.C.’s advice to finally fight back. Things start off promisingly. She stands up for herself, and guys are noticing her and interested. But it doesn’t take long for Jared to start up again, viewing this stronger, more self-assured Tate as a challenge. He sets out to make her life hell, and he succeeds.

But Jared is hot, and Tate can’t ignore that even though he lives to make her cry (that’s not hyperbole, he actually says this: “Letting out a fake pitiful sigh, he declared, ‘I’ll have you in tears in no time.’”), he also causes her to tingle in all the right places.

Bully depicts one of the most toxic relationships I’ve read since Jamie McGuire’s Beautiful Disaster. Jared is in no way a hero. None. I lost count how many times he shoves his way into Tate’s space in a physically threatening manner. He’s cruel and hateful. He actually tells Tate he doesn’t care if she’s alive or dead. He manipulates people into helping him bully her. He uses girls for sex. Seriously, other than a six-pack and a cool car, what did anyone find the least bit appealing about this guy?

Perhaps more insulting than framing this guy as a potential love interest is the reason we’re given for his visceral hatred of Tate. Of course I can’t tell you here because spoilers, but the excuse we get for why Jared turned evil is beyond lame.

And after two years of treating Tate like garbage, Jared needed to do a whole lot more apologizing and explaining than we get to see. He needs to seek help for his emotional damage, anger issues and potential substance abuse problems. He sure as hell doesn’t deserve to be trusted in any significant way for a very long time.

The idea that Tate would ever fall in love with Jared after what he did to her is beyond sad. It sends a horrible message – that abusive behavior is okay if he’s a) super hot, b) super popular and c) was abused in some way himself.

And yet Tate is ready to drop her panties because…?

I have no idea. He’s hot. Once upon a time, he wasn’t a monster. He’s hot.

Then again, Tate isn’t exactly the sharpest knife in the drawer. When Jared returns the summer of their fourteenth year and starts treating her like absolute crap after they had been practically inseparable besties for years, why doesn’t that girl get up in his face and insist on knowing what’s wrong with him? She just accepts that he’s going to be a total ass to her from that point on.

The secondary characters are almost as hateful as Jared. Tate’s best friend K.C. actually dates Jared, her attitude a flippant ‘get used to it’ despite the years of friendship they shared. So much for loyalty. Jared’s friend Madoc is a heinous little toady who’s on the road to becoming a full-fledged sexual predator. He has a mild redemption arc because he’s hot and he’s sequel bait.

The slut shaming. OMG, the slut shaming. Every girl who isn’t Tate is a slut or a girly-girl who only thinks about shopping. And along with that lovely trope, we have the All Boys Become Rapists Because The Heroine Is So Hot thing, just so Jared can enter beast-rage mode when Tate is threatened. I do have to give credit for Tate fighting for herself and having things under control when she’s assaulted. Multiple times. Guess the girls in that school get lots of practice fighting off sexual assault and harassment.

Tate’s dad works out of town and leaves her alone for months at a time. Jared’s mom is a neglectful alcoholic who leaves him alone to have massive kegger parties every weekend. What kind of neighborhood do these people live in that no one has an issue with underage kegger parties all the time? And what kind of police don’t put a stop to it?

Sadly, the book is chock-full of straight-up wrong information. It’s set outside Chicago, and as a resident of the Windy City, I can tell you that 1) you will NEVER smell lilacs out your window in August, 2) you will NEVER have sex outside in an October rain shower, and 3) you will NEVER be reluctant to crawl out of your toasty warm bed on an steamy, humid August night.

“The evenings had turned chilly, so I was reluctant to step out of my warm bed.”

Literally four sentences later:

“It was either the warm, August evening or my nerves, but I had to roll up my sleeves to cool down as I left my yard and traipsed into his.”

This makes me nuts. As does the fact that Tate takes a basic high school level French course despite spending a YEAR in France and becoming fluent in French.

And while we’re here, Tate is one of those most special-est of special unicorns, the orgasmic virgin. How lucky for her. Then again, there’s nobody like an eighteen-year-old man-ho who knows how to get it done.

This book is billed as an enemies-to-lovers story. Except Tate and Jared are not ‘enemies’, because that implies some form of power balance between the two of them, which does not exist. Jared has all of the power, physically and socially. Tate is the victim of his abuse, and while she has more power than she uses to fight back, she is never put on equal footing with him.

“He wanted me to know he was in control. Time after time, I let the jerk force me into hiding just so I wouldn’t have to endure any embarrassment or upset.”

This book is the modern day equivalent of a bodice ripper in which the victim falls in love with her rapist. No, Jared never rapes Tate. But he sexually harasses, and mentally and emotionally abuses her. That’s assault and violation, and to have her forgive him without some major intervention is just crazy.

And this is unfortunate, because there are the seeds of a good book here. What if Douglas had asked the hard questions as to why Jared had become a bully and treated it as the serious problem that it is, with Jared seeking help and making actual amends to Tate? And what if Tate had to deal with her own emotional damage at his hands and to work through the process of forgiving him? What if we saw Jared honestly and seriously working to regain Tate’s trust and friendship, and their relationship slowly healing and returning to a place of love?

Instead, we get a story of a ‘bad boy’ who is abusive and the sad girl who doesn’t see that she is so much better and deserves so much more. Oh, plus a six-pack, fast cars and hot sex. So – why not an F instead of a D, you might ask? Because there were a couple of times – only a couple – where Tate showed some cleverness. And I did finish the book.

Jenna Harper

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AAR Jenna

For as bad as Bully was, I’ve read worse. In one book – which was so bad it ended up being a DNF and thus no formal review – the “hero” bullied the heroine so bad, he and his friends actually ran her off a cliff with a car, severely injuring her. She spent two years in physical therapy. He tried to kill her. Why? Because she was a voluptuous girl. And yet when he shows up in her college class, she ends up giving him a second chance and love blossoms. Granted, the premise is that he “feels bad” about how he treated her. But I don’t know. I think hitting a girl with a car is a bridge too far. Maybe I’ll try to read it and review it. In case you want to know, the book is Never Sweeter by Charlotte Stein, and it currently enjoys a 3.65 rating on GoodReads. I don’t get it.

Last edited 2 years ago by AAR Jenna
Marian Perera

Let me guess… it was a really expensive car driven by a hot guy with a six-pack?

Dabney Grinnan

It’s nuts–I remember really liking that book but I don’t recall the car part at all. Now I’m wondering if it’s a different Stein I liked.

DiscoDollyDeb

Well, the book where the heroine is run off the cliff is definitely NEVER SWEETER. I usually like Charlotte Stein, but the whole time I was reading NEVER SWEETER, I was thinking to myself, WT-actual-F, because the premise was simple awful—and even Stein’s reliably good writing couldn’t redeem it.

Dabney Grinnan

Now I’m gonna go look at her books and see what it was I liked.

Lisa Fernandes

Sweet fancy moses.

AAR Jenna

So, I went back and read all of Never Sweeter, and it certainly warrants a review! I’ll write one up and submit.

Dabney Grinnan

I think I’ll reread it too. I remember liking it but have no memory of the hero trying to kill her…..

Amy

If anyone wants to try books with a “redeemed bully” theme that are YA that tries to approach it in a healthy way as a former victim of bullying, I loved these books:
– Curvy Girls Can’t Date Bullies by Kelsie Stelting.
The protagonist is an idiotic boy at the beginning…but an idiotic teenager, not a potential criminal.
– The Bad Boy’s Good Girl by Cookie O’Gorman.
It takes a lot of inspiration from kdramas but overall it’s cute and although it’s not perfect you can see that it’s one of those situations where the hero thinks he’s badder than he really is.

Carrie G

A good example of a redeemed bully (adult m/m) is In Step by Jay Hogan. The bully is redeemed, but the love interest isn’t the victim, although the victim features prominantly in the book. It’s handled really well because the author give the victim power in the situation and nothing is glossed over.
For NA, I really enjoyed Annabeth Albert’s Out of Character. The main character wasn’t so much of a bully, but he refused to stand by his best friend when the friend was being bullied. Years later in college, they have a chance to come to terms with what happened.

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Dabney Grinnan

Charlotte Stein does this trope well. I’m very fond of Never Sweeter and Curve Ball.

Maria Rose

Great review Jenna, and a book and author I will gladly take a pass on.

Lisa Fernandes

I see the Colleen Hooverification of the NA market continues. God, would this be an F for me.
Jenna, I’m so curious as to what the inciting incident was. I bet it’s fucking stupid, but I need to hear it.

Dabney Grinnan

You can read it all here.

Lisa Fernandes

Whew, if the author

spoiler

they failed by trying to make it “sexy.”

AAR Jenna

Dabney’s correct if you follow her link and read Jared’s bio. But the TL;DR version:

Spoiler of the Why

Yeah…so bad.

Lisa Fernandes

Yep, the combined effect just makes him look like a giant toddler who can’t emotionally regulate himself or correctly assign blame in his life.

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Nikki

It’s a YA? What a horrible book for a teenage girl. All the wrong lessons.

Dabney Grinnan

Judy Blume’s Forever is looking better every day….

Lisa Fernandes

^^ Still the champion of YA

Marian Perera

The saddest thing about such books, for me, isn’t even the abusive heroes. It’s the best friends who ignore the heroine’s discomfort or fear, pressure her into going out with the hero, and minimize or romanticize whatever he does to her (“He wouldn’t be stalking you if he wasn’t crazy about you!”)
This isn’t what best friends should do. I always end up wishing such heroines had friends who heard them out, encouraged them and stood up for them. Friends who increased their confidence and agency instead of tearing it down in the name of romance.

Amy

This reminds me a lot of the Japanese manga Hana Yori Dango, it is very old and the author has since improved in her stories and her most current works are romance but unfortunately that work is a “classic” within romantic manga.
In one scene the “hero” almost breaks a boy’s neck for talking to Heroine (ah, but he doesn’t kill him, so everything’s fine, right?) he forcibly kisses her more than once and almost rapes her twice, once before they started to date and another one later, he only stops when she cries and then we have to believe that he is respectful anyway because he didn’t finish raping her. The girl tries to get away from him on more than one occasion but ALL her friends and family insist that he loves her. The work seems to me more like the story of an abused victim who is constantly pushed towards her abuser and in the end stays with him because her have no choice.
Kdramas and other adaptations of the work have been made, softening it and making it more comical and less questionable, but the original work is terrible.

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Dabney Grinnan

Ugh. That sounds awful.

Lisa Fernandes

The culture of abuse applied by everyone in the story sounds horrendous.

Marian Perera

I read the opening of Falling Away, the fourth book in this series, and it’s got the same setup – heroine doesn’t want to go to a loud party, therefore her bff/cousin insists she go, and finally says that she’s going to the party even though she’s only eighteen and there will be alcohol, therefore someone needs to be there to look out for her. Sigh, rolleyes, and backspace.

Lisa Fernandes

Whelp, at least the author…knows what her audience wants?

Cathy

This sounds awful. I’ll never understand the appeal.

Dabney Grinnan

I wonder about that too. Is it a desire to not have to make choices–women are famously overworked in relationships? The sense that, compared to this guy, my person is a reasonable choice?
I dunno.

Star

It sort of reads to me like the Beauty and the Beast trope on steroids: put up with the abuse for long enough, and you’ll fix him, and everything will be great.

Dabney Grinnan

I love Beauty and the Beast stories but not when the Beast is an ass….

Star

They sort of depend on the author understanding that “very pretty abs” and “cool car” don’t count as redeeming qualities for Beast.

Dabney Grinnan

Here is the premise of one of her most popular books:

“I’ve done far worse than what I went to prison for. She has no idea how bad this can get.”

WINTER

Sending him to prison was the worst thing I could’ve done. It didn’t matter that he did the crime or that I wished he was dead. Perhaps I thought I’d have time to disappear before he got out or he’d cool off in jail and be anything but the horror he was.

But I was wrong. Three years came and went too fast, and now he’s anything but calm. Prison only gave him time to plan.

And while I anticipated his vengeance, I didn’t expect this.

He doesn’t want to make me hurt. He wants to make everything hurt.

DAMON

First thing’s first. Get rid of her daddy. He told them I forced her. He told them his little girl was a victim, but I was a kid, too, and she wanted it just as much as I did.

Step two… Give her, her sister, and her mother nowhere to run and no fuel to escape. The Ashby women are alone now and desperate for a knight in shining armor.

But that’s not what’s coming.

No, it’s time I listened to my father and took control of my future. It’s time I showed them all–my family, her family, my friends–that I will never change and that I have no other ambition than to be the nightmare of their lives.

Starting with her.

She’ll be so scared, she won’t even be safe in her own head by the time I’m done with her. And the best part is I won’t have to break into her home to do it.

As the new man of the house I have all the keys.

Lisa Fernandes

Jesus Christ – Just rapist-and-his-victim shit.

Dabney Grinnan

from the author on Goodreads:

Out of all of the books, BULLY was my favorite to write. It was easier before I knew how I would be critiqued, before I lost some of my freedom due to fear of what people would say. It was more a labor of love and a journey or discovery (sounds cheesy, I know), but with BULLY I had freedom and such a love for Jared and Tate as my firsts.

With Rival, Madoc was so much fun, and I probably had the most fun writing him more than anyone. He is a fantastic character, and I loved his humor. But I also constantly wondered whether I should take this chance or that, knowing how people were going to critique it. With BULLY, I was ignorant, and with RIVAL, I was aware, so I was nervous. It was a different experience.

Now, with Falling Away, I just said screw it. Even though BULLY was my favorite to write, because I was free of fear with that one, Falling Away is my favorite book. I will read every review, because no one can tell me anything that will make me feel bad about this story. I am who I am, I write how I write, and I’m proud of myself, no matter what anyone says ;)

Lisa Fernandes

Now, with Falling Away, I just said screw it. Even though BULLY was my favorite to write, because I was free of fear with that one, Falling Away is my favorite book. I will read every review, because no one can tell me anything that will make me feel bad about this story. I am who I am, I write how I write, and I’m proud of myself, no matter what anyone says ;)
Oh Lord, the winky smiley face.

Star

This reads as a response to the prompt “Tell me you have no interest in growing as a person without telling me you have no interest in growing as a person.”

Dabney Grinnan

LOL.

Lisa Fernandes

Boom!

DiscoDollyDeb

Yikes!! Penelope Douglas wrote two of my favorite romances, BIRTHDAY GIRL and CREEDENCE, but obviously something’s gone seriously astray with BULLY. On the other hand, thinking of some of Douglas’s other books, it’s possible that BIRTHDAY GIRL and CREEDENCE were the anomalies and BULLY is, unfortunately, more representative of her style.

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Marian Perera

This sounded like an appalling trainwreck, but I started reading the excerpt anyway. In it :

  • Tate and K. C. are en route to a party. Tate realizes the party will be loud and large, and, feeling uncomfortable, she says more than once that she doesn’t think this is a good idea. K. C. replies in a “threatening voice” that Tate has to go to the partly. So Tate gives in.
  • At the party, a girl tells Tate to put her car keys into a bowl to avoid drunk driving. Tate says she won’t be drinking, and thinks that she wants to keep hold of her way out of there. The girl refuses to accept that. So Tate gives in.
  • The zero – I mean, hero – hasn’t even appeared in the story yet, and already the heroine is lying down so people can wipe their feet on her. So I stopped reading.
Lisa Fernandes

Tate sounds like a no-personality nightmare here.

Marian Perera

Yes, I can take heroes behaving badly if 1. they do so for a good reason (not “I was hurt, therefore I’m going to jump on the cycle of abuse and ride that cycle all over the hottest innocent woman I can find”) 2. the heroines stand up to them. And by that, I don’t mean the heroine makes a snarky remark, therefore the hero sexually assaults her and the narrative treats the two actions as equal. I mean she has self-respect and refuses to put up with ill-treatment, which challenges him to change. I could get behind that kind of story.

Star

I also really like stories where the heroine starts off as a doormat because she’s been abused into submission but then hits a point where something inside her snaps and she refuses to take it anymore. Victoria Dahl did this very well in HARLOT (imo); it takes her awhile to get there, but once she finally gets angry, she gets her power back, and I found it very cathartic. But the problem with those stories is that you don’t know going in if she’s going to get there or if the author is going the snarky route instead, and for some reason most authors prefer the snarky route.

(Or he, I guess, but I’ve never seen the pivot happen when the hero is the one being emotionally abused, because apparently heroes being emotionally abused are evidence that our heroine is Strong and therefore he should stay there.)

Marian Perera

But the problem with those stories is that you don’t know going in if she’s going to get there or if the author is going the snarky route instead, and for some reason most authors prefer the snarky route.

Yes, this. I don’t want to read any more romances where the hero kidnaps, manipulates, abuses and rapes the heroine, but where she refuses to break down completely and the story treats this as SHE’S HIS EQUAL, HE’S IN LOVE. And if a story convinces me that the heroine has succumbed to Stockholm Syndrome, it’s failed as a romance for me.

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Star

100%. Also, your comment has helped articulate to myself that for me anyway, even though I like reading about abused doormats getting their power back, the hero cannot be the one responsible for breaking the heroine down in the first place. Part of what makes HARLOT work is that although the hero is awful to the heroine for much of the book, she had been traumatized by other people, and he wasn’t even there when that was happening. There are lines that a romance can’t cross if I am to consent to it as romance.

Dabney Grinnan

I loved Harlot–it’s such a bummer that the novella is no longer available for purchase.