First Love, Take Two
I loved Patel’s debut The Trouble With Hating You and picked up First Love, Take Two expecting the same wonderful reading experience. Unfortunately, 33% of the way in, I gave up. I just couldn’t stand another moment. But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Here is the book’s summary:
It turns out Preeti not only suffers from anxiety but she is “touch averse” – something I know nothing about but found interesting. How does a person who wants to be a family physician deal with such a disability? Also, Preeti is dating a very traditional Hindu man, Yuvan, who expects to marry her. Not only does he expect it but so do his parents as well as Preeti’s. So, you know, no pressure.
Another important point is that it was Preeti who broke up with Daniel. Only she didn’t really break up so as much as run away. She never explained to Daniel – after four years of dating in college – that she had been 1) threatened by his wealthy father, 2) believes her mother’s heart attack at about the same time is the result of her family being shamed by their small Hindu community because she is dating a black man (or maybe he’s just not Hindu?), and 3) she felt like she had to choose between Daniel and her family, that there was no way to have both. She can’t imagine “breaking up” with her family, and can’t imagine telling Daniel any of this, so Preeti bails without a word.
But now she’s completed medical school. She’s interviewing for her first position as a physician. As the book opens, Preeti is looking for temporary digs until a job comes through and her best girlfriends offer her the perfect place to stay. Except it includes Daniel, back in town and also needing temporary digs. (The girlfriends are all about Preeti about to marry a man she does not love, while not sure that Preeti isn’t still in love with Daniel and proximity will answer that question.)
Daniel is in contact with his family but has not been living nearby since the breakup. He is close to his grandparents but not his parents, and he’s resisting getting sucked into his father’s business interests and becoming Dad’s shadow. So, points to Daniel.
I managed to read far enough for Preeti and Daniel to meet in at least two public places and both times Daniel asks her to find the time to explain why she left. He also manages to spend at least 3 nights in the apartment with Preeti, despite her doing everything she can to avoid being in the same room with him. (Although she does get into the only bed in the apartment with Daniel on two of those nights, rationalizing that since he’s asleep, so it’s ok. Maybe I’m just old-school, but if you can’t woman up enough to explain what was going on in your life that caused you to run away, maybe you shouldn’t be sleeping – even only platonically – in the same bed with him.)
I got to this point in the book:
Because one doesn’t get over the love of his life walking away! What the hell, Pree? Why can’t you just give me a damn answer?”
I blinked, a nauseating sensation rumbling through my insides. How hard was it to tell him that I never stopped loving him, and worse than that, I left him for the wrong reasons? The words were simple and few, but they knotted on my tongue and refused to come out.
And I was done.
I assume Preeti finally gets her act together before the end of the book because it is a romance. She’s going to have to 1) break off her relationship with Yuvan, 2) be honest with her parents about her fears about their position in the community, and 3) either stand up to members of her community with or without her parent’s help; or tell them all to take a hike. I was also curious to find out how and when Daniel was going to stand up to his own family. All of this should have made for really interesting reading, and all it needed to unfold was an honest conversation.
But I just couldn’t take one more second of Preeti’s pity party, and treating people she supposedly loves with such discourtesy.
Beyond the lies Preeti’s telling Yuvan and her family (both of omission and outright), Preeti knows Daniel wants to have a conversation, she’s had multiple opportunities to have it, and she’s avoiding it AGAIN? A person who thinks she’s going to be a doctor? Sorry. Doctors know that you don’t let wounds fester. And watching that wound fester for a full third of the book and knowing there was more to come was beyond me.
What I can’t figure out is how Patel could write such strong characters in The Trouble With Hating You; and not see how all the issues she’s thrown in front of Preeti and Daniel (disabilities, new jobs, family dynamics on top of cultural issues) were more than enough material to make for an interesting read. Why make Preeti such a snivelly character?
To be fair, this book does have positive reviews elsewhere. YMMV. If you do read it and like it, I hope you’ll come back to tell others that in order to balance out my own disappointment.
~ Katherine Lynne
Over the years, AAR has had many a guest reviewer. If we don't know the name of the reviewer, we've placed their reviews under this generic name.
Book Details
Reviewer: | Guest Reviewer |
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Review Date: | April 1, 2023 |
Publication Date: | 09/2021 |
Grade: | F |
Sensuality | Subtle |
Book Type: | Contemporary Romance |
Review Tags: | AoC | DNF | Hindu | interracial romance | PoC | second chance romance |
As a new reviewer for AAR, I was surprised by the F review grade when this was posted (I assumed it would be the DNF I submitted). And it would appear that DNF as a tag is new, since power search only brought up this single review as tagged DNF (or did I search incorrectly?).
I have to admit I feel bad seeing a book with a letter grade when I didn’t finish reading it.
I’ve been thinking about this since the review posted; and going back and forth on it. Does DNF automatically = F? I mean, I couldn’t bring myself to keep reading, for reasons. But that seems different than suggesting that I think no one else will want to read it either. Lots of romances seem to use these types of tropes (Big Miscommunication, I CAAAAN’T, etc.) and seem to be popular with some readers.
Any chance to discuss or consider this – especially since it appears to be a new policy?
I’m glad you mentioned the DNF because I’ve been mulling this question since your review was published a few days ago: can a grade be assigned to a book that the reviewer didn’t actually finish reading? I agree that the likelihood of the book redeeming itself after the point you stopped reading is slim, but—in all fairness—can a book qualify for an F grade based on only a portion of it being read? While I think your review is insightful and clearly explains why you couldn’t continue reading the book, I think the book should be classified as a DNF as opposed to an F.
It’s true that we’ve traditionally not graded DNFs but I don’t feel that is inherently the only way we can do things. Why not say, I gave this an F for what my experience of it is.
That said, I don’t feel strongly either way. Both ways of telling readers about a book give information.
I think this is book is a good example for having this discussion (does DNF = F?), because I was completely engaged for all the other aspects of the book except for one issue (albeit a big one).
Had Preeti had one honest interaction/conversation with Daniel early in the book, I think I’d have really enjoyed the book and perhaps graded it in the B or C range had I finished it. (And, as a new reviewer, I should have made that more clear in my review. I like this author – or at least her first book – and there were plenty of interesting difficulties for Preeti and Daniel to deal with to make for an interesting book here.)
Giving the entire book an F because one thing about the book didn’t work for me feels wrong. Fs imply a complete failure: that nothing about the book works (e.g. all of the characters are unlikeable and the plot is nonsensical and the prose stilted). But saying that one particular behavior of the main character caused me to just stop reading means only that: that I couldn’t deal with this person for one more second. (Other readers like/relate to Preeti: at least one other review site gives the book a B- (although the reviewer has essentially the same issues with the book I did) and it has a 3.85 rating based on almost 6,000 reviews at GR.)
OTOH, there is at least one F review here at AAR (although it is not a DNF) that is offset by another reviewer who graded the same book in the B range. So maybe being unwilling to keep reading IS an F experience of a book.
Any other thoughts?
Speaking personally and without my AAR hat on, I think your last sentence hits the nail on the nead – despite the things you liked, you couldn’t continue to read it which means that for YOU, it’s failed.
I also think that DNF should be the grade, especially since you as the reviewer think so. DNF just contributes very different information from an F. For instance, I just DNFed something that I was enjoying and think other people would enjoy because I just wasn’t interested enough to continue for reasons amounting to personal preferences that were not at all the fault of the author or book; in no way would the poor book deserve an F. And I’ve similarly dropped books because of unexpected plot points revolving on personally disliked tropes like surprise pregnancy or triggers like cancer, or because humor is subjective, or I couldn’t suspend disbelief, or the author took a casual potshot at a category of people that includes me, etc. (Dear authors, some of us are gluten free for medical reasons.) “This does not work for me” does not entail “this is bad,” and as a review reader, this distinction matters and is relevant to me.
Also, even in cases where the reader did DNF because the book was awful, F and DNF still convey different information. A lot of the time, people give Fs to books that they had a lot of fun hating, which is a very different reading experience from hated books that get DNF.
I didn’t upload this review, but I suspect part of the reason for the F grade is one of simple practicality – we don’t currently have a DNF option in our grading ‘menu’. It may be possible to add one, but as it stands now, we have a drop down menu of grades from A+ to F.
That said, having read the review, it seems to me that the F is warranted – it sounds like an incredibly frustrating book in which the author didn’t really have a clear idea of what she wanted to do.
I will look into seeing if we can add the DNF option. I’m always leery of messing with the database but I’ll see!
I wasn’t suggesting it was a necessity – just explaining that it’s not an option we currently have available.
What about another letter for DNF? Since D and F are both existing grades, what about N? Or no grade, but use the DNF tag?
I could add DNF, I think, but it’s then a change to our giant database. I will look into it.
Actually we do have N/A. Maybe we could use that instead (without risking having the entire DB crashing down around our ears!!(
I sense the cat-and-mouse “I love you but I CAN’T” stuff lasts for a terribly long time before anything happens and just. No. She couldn’t tell him his father threatened her (!!) so I can’t imagine her having the guts to confess more.
Yes, exactly. And I especially like the way you put it: “I love you but I CAN’T”. Although it should be spelled “I love you but I CAAAAAAAAAN’T (with high-pitched sound effect)”.
I have to admit I’ve come across far too many (IMO) books with this “trope” and rarely finish them. But maybe it is an appeal for some readers?
Oh definitely, but oof in my case for sure! Immature heroines are anything but my catnip, so I’m gonna avoid this one.
The back story reminds me of the plot of Persuasion and I think the writer could have more than enough conflict if Preeti broke up with him because of her family but at least told him that? Captain Wentworth knows what happened, but he’s still hurt and angry by Anne’s rejection. It is kind of insane to up and leave without a word after four years of dating and being in love. To me, this sounds like something the editing should have addressed.
I have to admit I’d love to know how much of this avoid/delay/avoid plot device was the author’s choice, and how much an editor’s.
I’m amazed you managed to persevere wtih it as long as you did – it sounds excruciating. It sounds as though the author really hasn’t given adequate thought to the internal life of her lead character so that when taken as a whole, nothing about her adds up.
Thank you for your detailed and articulate explanation of why this book didn’t work for you.
I hung in because I kept expecting a great conversation. Actually, I was expecting quite a few great conversations. Alas. None of them seemed to be in the offing anytime soon.