
Gone Girl
Ten years ago, on June 5th, Gillian Flynn’s Gone Girl arrived. It wasn’t Flynn’s first book or even her second—she’d published two unsettling works both of which had sold reasonably well. But Gone Girl rocketed to the top of the best-seller list in the summer of 2012—it spent eight weeks at #1 on the NYT hardcover list and by the end of the year had sold over two million copies. In general, critics loved it and readers couldn’t stop talking about it.
I don’t love Flynn’s first two books—I find Sharp Objects so disturbing that, really, I wish I’d never read it and the lead sin Dark Places are too glum for my liking. But I adored Gone Girl. I am grateful I read it in the era where spoilers were easy to avoid—I can still remember gaping at the very first paragraph of Part Two. It was a book that as soon as I’d finished reading it, I wanted to do so again and, several weeks later I did. Flynn’s precision with both plot and words riveted me. Everything about the novel, including its morally ambiguous framework, worked for me.
I read it again last month to see how it would hold up. And, if possible, I thought it even better.
For those who haven’t read it, Gone Girl is the story of Nick and Amy Dunne whose marriage, like many, is full of lies, malice, sex, betrayal, and love. As the book begins, it is the morning of Nick and Amy’s fifth anniversary and Nick comes downstairs to find Amy making pancakes. Amy beams at Nick, calls him handsome, and Nick, full of dread, thinks “OK, go.”
Within hours, Amy has vanished, the living room is in shambles, and the police—and the reader–are eyeing Nick with suspicion. After all, the most likely killer of a missing, presumably dead wife is always the husband. Worse, as Nick tells the story, it’s clear he might have murdered Amy. When he met her, she was perfect–beautiful, charming, and very very rich. Now, however, Amy, though still beautiful, is viciously nasty to Nick (or so he says), and all that money Nick so longed for is missing. After the money vanished, the two moved back to Nick’s small hometown in Missouri, a place Nick says Amy loathes, and their marriage has become, according to Nick, an emotional hell.
Nick’s story is in first person but the reader gets Amy’s story via her diary, a work whose first entry she penned seven years ago on the night she met Nick. In her telling, from the moment they met, she adored him. Her prose is full, in the salad days of their story, of effervescent joy. Nick was just the best, coolest, most wonderful man EVER.
Both Amy and Nick, when they met, were writers. And though neither of them is paid to do so anymore, in Gone Girl they are each determinedly telling their side of the story. The book goes back and forth between Nick narrating what (or so he says) is happening in real-time and Amy narrating what happened in the past (or so she says), in chronological order via her diary. Both narrations are utterly unreliably.
There are many ways to misdirect a reader. You can leave out facts that had they been shared cast a completely different lens on the story you’re telling. You can emphasize things that in reality were meaningless at the time and now inflate them with portent. You can simply say things that are patently untrue. Amy and Nick each do all of these and more as they work to control the narrative of their love story. Because it is, while not even vaguely a romance, a love story. Amy’s and Nick’s ultimate goal is to show the world the real person the other is and the relationship they’ve wrought is as intimate as any I’ve ever read.
Gone Girl offers shock after shock and the plot, while at times borderline bonkers, is believable. This is a book that even on my third reading of it, I couldn’t put down. Even better is Flynn’s prose. In 2022, we all know Amy’s famous Cool Girl rant. It is, if possible, over twenty years even more true in its skewering of a certain kind of horribly common male expectation for women.
One can’t help but agree with Amy’s fury but even as you find yourself nodding your head you remember Amy is not to be trusted—nor, of course, is Nick—and you realize, yet again, you’ve been reading as though their words have some kind of narrative truth when, you realize, you f*cking know better to believe a word either shares.
I’ve heard from many that they found the ending unsatisfying, and I get that. We are a world that likes our vengeance and punishment for those who sin. I, though, see the ending as offering both. Amy and Nick get exactly what they deserve. As do we readers who’ve just finished a perfect rendered tale.





I didn’t read the book but I did see the movie. I think Ben Affleck was terrific casting because I am never ever sure if I’m supposed to like him or hate him in any of his movies, and usually end up doing both. Obviously this role exemplified that.
I fell for Ben hard in Chasing Amy where he was someone you wanted to hate but just…couldn’t.
I did really like him in Argo.
I think he’s actually a better actor than he generally gets credit for. He seems to gravitate toward roles that skirt the line between OK guy and douche, though.
I can’t believe he’s been in 55 films! This is a fun ranking of his performance in them all.
This has to be one of the best lines I’ve read in a review about Gone Girl the movie: Affleck was so well cast as Nick Dunne that he was believable as both the cheating husband who probably killed his wife and the idiot husband who might have been framed for his wife’s murder. LOL – he played the character as a jerk who was either stupid or murderous.
I read Gone Girl soon after it came out and thought it was gripping. I am not a big reader of suspense and didn’t see the big twist coming so it shocked me. I hated the ending as I like villains to get their comeuppance but I could respect the writer’s choice as the more thought/discussion provoking one. Neither Nick nor Amy were particularly likable so perhaps it was appropriate the way it ended up.
I definitely agree that this was an influential book. It begat books like The Girl on the Train and A Simple Favor (both made into movies as well). I don’t think the “unreliable narrator” trope was as big before Gone Girl came around.
I never read the book again but that’s more due to a huge TBR pile and a lower interest in suspense novels. I do think the book is very well written.
Did you see the movie? I didn’t love it but I thought it was interesting.
I actually really liked the movie. Affleck did his usual just okay performance but I thought Rosamund Pike did a fantastic job. Kim Dickens as the police officer also gave a really good performance. I get why those who really dug the book might not like it though. I know I struggle with movie adaptations of books I love – they rarely live up to what I appreciated about the novel.
Fincher is so good at creepy and at casting. His choices for the roles in Mindhunter are perfect. I actually liked Affleck but I usually do. Pike is always good in whatever she does as is Dickens.
I did see the movie but don’t remember much of it except that Rosamund Pike was excellently cast as Amy and did a great job, just as Maggie said. I remember when reading the book that I had more empathy for Nick, which is why the ending was rough for me. Ben Affleck is one of those actors where he is charming but sometimes just a bit unlikeable at the same time. So, in retrospect, he was probably a pretty good choice for Nick as I think in the end we are supposed to see flaws in both Nick and Amy. Or maybe I am conflating Ben’s personal life too much with his acting life!
Amy’s a fine, memorable unreliable narrator, and the book’s suspense is great, but I also feel like Gone Girl is a bit overrated.
I’ve been reading mysteries for years and before Gone Girl, the unreliable narrator was definitely a rarity. Flynn brought this character into the mainstream and paved the way for so many truly fantastic authors to write some really great twisty books when she did so. Gone Girl isn’t a favorite for me (I’d probably give it a B-) but I think the impact it had on the market can’t be overrated.
I read a lot about it recently. It’s hard to overstate what an impact it had on publishing. Not only was Amy an unreliable narrator, prior to Flynn publishers were far more likely to option suspense novels written by men.
I definitely didn’t mean vis market impact, I meant as a reading experience.
I can see that. I didn’t personally love the book but I have adored numerous novels that were published as a result of it. I spoke to Mary Kubica once and she mentioned her first novel sat on a slush pile for several years and then Gone Girl was published, her agent dusted off Mary’s manuscript and it was picked up as a result of the popularity of GG. I think it shows what can happen when publishers take a chance on something a little different.
I read it—not immediately upon release but within the first year—and did not care for it. It wasn’t so much that I hated the MCs (although neither of them are very sympathetic), it was the OTT and obviousness of everyone’s motivations and actions. Plus, I thought Flynn over-explained everything, and when she thought readers still might not get it, she’d bring in a character who conveniently shows up to explain it to us (e.g., Amy’s childhood friend). All in all, I thought these malevolent people and the convenient coincidences of their interactions would have been better served by a writer like Ruth Rendell/Barbara Vine whose psychological suspense novels wring every last drop from amoral/immoral characters.
I got this book when it came out but loathed it so much that I never finished it. I can’t remember why now, it was so long ago. Maybe because I disliked both the MCs?
Plus the ending was ridiculously unsatisfying. Hugely disappointing and over-hyped.
It’s certainly not for everyone. But, if anything, critics are wilder about the book than ever. It’s certainly considered one of the most influential books of this century.
To this day, I know many who feel just like you do however!
I always got the impression that Gone Girl was to people who didn’t read suspense targeting women as Fifty Shades was to people who don’t read either romance or erotic romance. If you never read anything like it, it comes across very differently to you than if you are immersed in that world and genre? I’ve never read either so I can’t speak to the quality but that was the vibe I got from the people who were reading them and the places I saw them “buzzed about.”
I dunno. I have always been a huge mystery/suspense reader. It may be that people who didn’t read suspense picked it up because of the buzz but for those of us who were deep in that genre, it was still a revelation for many of us.
Good to know! I mostly saw reactions from the women’s fiction book club circuits, who also read and were scandalized by FSOG. I’m not a thriller person myself (I get tense reading Wikipedia plot summaries!) so this was my main touch point on this book.
This is hilarious but the “cool girl” speech I think at my age I’ve discovered that many women have a version of “cool boy” for them.
Cool boy has a six pack although he doesn’t do anything but walk, ride or go to the gym from time to time, he also knows how to cook, sew, iron and all the skills of a good house owner because cool boy would never dare expect his wife to do anything of those things for him, cool boy actually doesn’t care if a woman knows absolutely nothing about housework! he really loves strong and feminist women, he likes a girl to give him constructive criticism and he never gets angry when she does, there is nothing that makes him feel attacked in his masculinity never cool boy is above any kind of “toxic masculinity” he would even let his daughter paint her nails and try makeup out of curiosity.
Above all cool boy is good at giving emotional support, he really doesn’t care about sex, he will always understand when his girl is not in the mood, and he won’t get angry or resentful for it, cool boy will never cheat on his partner even if they go months without having sex , if in a fight the woman yells at or attacks cool boy, he doesn’t care at all, he still loves you and understands that you didn’t mean that.
Finally cool boy brings it all together, he’s sexy like an alpha male, loving like a beta male and he’s also a cinnamon roll who respects your independence and knows how to properly communicate his feelings.
It’s kind of funny but I think over the years women have also found their type of guy unrealistic (as much as some of the “cool boy” stuff is actually really cool) and in fact lately I’ve seen guys trying pretend they are this kind of perfect man.
I love this!
I do–seriously–think we’ve created equally unrealistic composites for both sexes in no small part due to social media and the ever increasing belief that fictional characters on TV, in movies, and in books should be gorgeous, fit, socially aware, and overwhelmingly considerate.
This is the hero of so, so many Chinese dramas to a tee. And also the star of plenty of contemporary romance novels.
I just read a contemporary romance novel whose hero was this to a T. Amy, can I borrow a few of your words for my upcoming review?
Yes! I do not have any problem
Thanks!